Can You Hear Me Now?


Hi! I'm Deidre and welcome to my blog! I've been wanting to do this for so long and I finally got the courage to share my thoughts via the web. I have so much to talk about, so many things I want to share, I don't even know where to begin. Basically I want to be heard and I want to listen and learn from you guys. I'd love for this to be a place for me to share my world and get some things off my chest. That has been a running theme in my life.

I pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated in the fall of 2001. I earned the line name “Ace VENTura” because throughout my process I’d often start conversations by saying “Umm I need to vent..” Working in such a large group with my sisters and trying to get things accomplished was difficult because everyone wanted to be heard. So I’d bite my tongue for as long as I could, my head would begin to throb, my chest got tight, and when I couldn’t take it anymore, I’d stand up and say those words “Umm I need to vent” and everyone knew it was going to be a very long night. Everything I’d held onto was about to be unloaded. But hey we all want to be heard right?

I guess I still felt the need to be heard because since 2003, I’ve been the co-host of a morning radio show geared towards men. Don’t get me wrong, I love my job but I’m the only woman on a show with 4 guys. It’s like The View with man meat and I’m the odd-chick out,the Elizabeth Hasselbeck of my show. You know how Whoopi, Joy, Sherri, and Barbra Walters lean to the left politically and Lizzy is the Lone Republican Ranger? Well on my show I’m very vocal about my support of President Obama, gay marriage, and most liberal topics. Our audience leans toward the right and is male oriented so yeah sometimes I struggle to get my point across. I enjoy and encourage the healthy dialogue on our program with my co-hosts and listeners but sometimes even after talking to thousands of people for 5 hours each day,I still need to vent. That is why I started this blog.

I’m also going through a major physical transformation. I packed on a ton of pounds (I stopped counting around 100,) as a result of poor choices, health issues, and some wicked steroids and hormones I took to “get better.” Let me tell you it SUCKED ass and I wanted it gone. That rapid and massive weight gain did a number on my body and health so I had weight loss surgery (lap-band,) because my doctors agreed carrying all that weight on a small frame was doing even more damage than my prior health issues. See:

Since I try to avoid cameras at all times, I don't really have a full body "after" shot but I took this photo 3 months ago:

So all is good right? Dee got a quick fix and the weight is just gonna melt off in no time and she will finally get her sexy back? Hell to the no. Anyone who tells you surgery is an easy out is grossly uninformed and needs to shut the hell up. It is more like a tool to kick start your lifestyle change. It worked for me I knocked off about 30lbs in no time. After that initial drop the hard work begins. You have to worry about portion control, working out, making sure you’re getting all the nutrients you need, and blah blah blah. This shit requires commitment. But I don’t want to get into all of that during our first encounter. If you stick around you’ll hear all about my process, and the ups and downs of my weight loss. For now I can tell you I’ve lost 80lbs in 8 months and I would love to lose about 50 more.

I’m also an HGTV ho’. Seriously, I’d sell body to get on Design on a Dime, real talk. I have a love jones for Vern Yip. I’ve been stalking him since his Trading Spaces days. He completes me. I even got to meet him once see!

Don’t we look good together? I was crushed when I learned we could never be. He kissed a boy and he liked it. Liked it so much they adopted a kid together. If he’d called me I would have been honored to carry his little Yip in my womb in exchange for a bathroom makeover. Ok that sounds creepy, of course I wouldn’t do that. I’m lying I’d totally get knocked up by Vern to get a whirlpool tub!

See here I go just yammering and going on, getting off track! Let me wrap up this intro. So yea my name is Deidre, I’m a dj, trying to lose weight, get my house together, find love and happiness, and while I’m at it, I’d like to end world hunger. Welcome to my blog! I hope you come back soon! *Insert pageant wave*


TLO said...

I LOVE THIS!!!What a great idea.. I will be a faithful follower!! I am very proud of you..


Deidre said...

Thanks Tlo :) I really appreciate your support!

My Cancer Journey said...


What a fabulous read! Thank you for being willing to open up your life to help others. I feel so encouraged now to lose some much needed weight myself. I have battled cancer 4 times. This has put me in a "slump" over many things in my life. You are an inspiration and I truly feel honored to know you. I will follow your journey as I take the steps to journey along with you.

Lots of Love,

Heather said...

Let me get this straight -- you met Vern Yip????

Seriously, this is awesome. If you need to be heard (and I do sympathize), then start talking until you're heard. You look so great, BTW; I hadn't seen a "before" photo until this blog.

Sandra Flowers said...

Love, Love, Love this. You are awesome and an excellent communicator. Cannot wait for the next installment.

Deidre said...

Pamela, thanks so much. I took a moment to read your blog as well. You are so bad ass! I can't begin to tell you how much I admire your strength and bravery. I hope we can both reach our goals and become healthier while sharing our journey here. If you ever need me or want a work out buddy let me know!

Heather, the Yip loves is hardcore. People always laugh at me when I tell them about my obsession, I mean appreciation for his work :) Thanks for reading and leaving a comment.

Sandra, I'm so glad I didn't disappoint! I will try to post at least once a day. I will jazz up the site as well. It is truly a work in progress. Thank you so much for the feedback.

Lenslinger said...

You had me at Hello.

Lenslinger said...

"I would have been honored to carry his little Yip in my womb in exchange for a bathroom makeover."

So good it hurts.

cheekymonkeync said...

Hey Deidre,

Great to see this outlet for you. I look forward to following you. With the weight loss, you know that I know where you are coming from and I am here for any encouragement or help if you need it. I would appreciate the same as I try to start leading a healthier lifestyle.

Andy C

Emily Byrd said...

You. so. rock.

Thanks for representing my point of view every morning, Deidre! I can't wait to read more. :)


Anonymous said...

I took that picture of you and Vern! The blog looks great. Can't wait to read more. In the eye.


Lonley Mommy said...

Dee, all you need now is a book, a hit single, and a Lifetime movie(with Jennifer Hudson playing you) and you are going to be on easy street!! Good luck with the blog!

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