I’m a very lucky girl. I don’t know how it happened, but
over the years I’ve met some pretty remarkable people who are very passionate
and goal oriented. They had desires and dreams then found the means to make
them come true. I will profile them in a new feature called Passion Meets Purpose.
It is my hope that their stories encourage and empower the rest of us to do the
same.
I was instantly impressed with her generous spirit
and dedication to service. It came as no surprise that she has dedicated her
life to serving her community and empowering youth. I hope you enjoy our first Passion Meets
Purpose profile of Jimmeka Anderson.
I have been writing since I was about eight
years old and I have been working with youth for the past 10 years. I launched
my
non-profit organization, I AM not the MEdia, Inc. in January 2012 and in our
first year we served over 700 teens through free programming that empowers
youth through media literacy.
When did you decide to
pursue your passion?
When I realized it was
what made me smile in the morning; When it did not feel like work; When I was
at peace and proud of myself.
How did life prepare
you to follow your dreams?
I thank God for
bringing phenomenal and inspiring men and women in my life that served as
mentors to me and sparked the fire for me to achieve my dreams, made me believe
that I could do it. These people made me realize I am more than just a woman,
more than just black, I am an instrument crafted by God to fulfill a purpose
here on this earth beyond what the world sees or expects, I am greater.
Was fear a factor?If so how did you overcome it?
Fear of people use to
be a factor for me. I cared too much what people thought of me, how I talked,
my ideas and who I was a person. When I started believing more in myself, my
talents and
gifts that God gave me, I started to care less what people thought
because I began to realize they were no better nor different from myself. Now,
I am not afraid to share myself to the world and speak out loud confidently. I
love who I am.
If you could look back
and give yourself any piece of advice what would it be?
"Fear is a
choice" or "Quit trying to please everyone Jimmeka!"
What’s a typical day
like for you?
I wake up, play music
while I get my daughter and myself ready for school and work...sing in the
shower...hum out the door...Go to work at ImaginOn in downtown Charlotte and
plan events in the city for teens...Get off work...sing in the car...pick up my
daughter...head to my non profit's office...WORK!...Sing In the car...Come home
and cook...Eat and Write...Pray and Go To Sleep
Who or what inspires you? Ambitious Youth, Wise Elderly People, and
those that serve mankind
What’s next? I am in the process of publishing my second book of poetry
and currently writing a novel. My non-profit I AM not the MEdia, Inc. is
expanding and opening a chapter in Atlanta, GA which is very exciting!
Today’s my Oprah-versary! If you don’t get down with Lady O
you might want to tap out right now because this post is all about my experience
on Lifeclass one year ago.
Remember how I wrote an entry about going to see Oprah’sLifeclass then I fell off the blogosphere? It is because I couldn’t find the
words to express what the experience was like.
Since I was a little girl Oprah was my person. Not an idol
or role model, she was my person. That person who I thought truly got me and
embodied the values, dreams and passions that fed my soul. Yes I had passion
and an interest in my soul at an early age. Don’t believe me? Ask my momma.
I never had the guts to even attempt to be on her show. I
would sit back and watch all the Favorite Things episodes and the Live Your
Best Life shows from my couch wishing I was there to witness and participate in
the work that was being done there.
I call it work because lives were changed
on that show. People worked through their issues in front of millions in hope
of moving forward and getting through the emotional mental and sometimes
physical gunk of life. I’ve been working on me so hard and for so long I think
I deserve a W-2!
I didn’t think I was worthy. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t
that I thought I wasn’t worthy to be in her presence, it was more like, “Why
me? I’m not that special. My story isn’t that interesting.” So I sat back for
25 seasons and never sent one letter or email to get on the show (until the
final season when all I wanted was a ticket to the grand finale.)
Over the last 15 years, life has been indescribable. Not all
bad, but the struggle was REAL. Failed relationships (romantic, platonic,
professional and family,) financial issues, health issues and insecurities
played a major role in my inability to live my best life.
On the flip side, my
career was taking off, I bought a home, I had a wonderful circle of friends and
the most important person in my life, my mother was always a phone call away.
Things were back and forth, up and down all over the place and bittersweet.
It took a while but I
finally got on the path to feeling “worthy.” I began to travel, I went on trips
and vacations with loved ones. I cultivated meaningful and healthy relationships. But while everything seemed to be all good on
the outside, I was hiding a HUGE secret. I was miserable. I was depressed. I
was pissed off because I finally knew my worth yet I wasn’t living a life that
was worthy of me! I know it sounds confusing, but it’s my truth.
I was so afraid of confessing my feelings because I didn’t
think anyone would get it. My job is to be funny and upbeat 5 hours a day 5
days a week. Being a Debbie Downer was not an option so I put on my happy mask
and cracked jokes. I ignored the aches of my heart and soldiered on with my day
to day.
Dewaynia getting the coveted tickets!
Fast forward to March 2012. Oprah’s Lifeclass went on tour
and I scored tickets with my sister-friend Dewaynia. You can read all about
that here. When I learned about the topic “Living your life on purpose,” I was
beyond excited. I knew something was off and I knew something was missing but I
didn’t know how to express it or pursue it.
I want to go through and give you all a play by play of the
trip, the outfit and the entire show but I know y’all have stuff to do so I’m
going to get to the good.
Like my outfit?
The show was 2 hours long and for 90 minutes various people
stood up and spoke on how they found the courage to let go of their pasts to
pursue their dreams. I started to feel a certain kind of way.
Why was it so easy for everyone else to pop up and tell
Oprah about how they quit their jobs, let go of fear to find their purpose.
Sorry I got bills, I don’t have a financial back up plan. I wanted to know how
to get my happy!
So during a commercial break I looked at my friend Dewaynia
and I said, “I’m not feeling this. I am not getting the answers I need.” It
wasn’t that TD Jakes and the other guests weren’t effective, it was just that I
needed some specifics. So while Oprah sat on stage getting her hair and makeup
retouched, I stood up and said “I have a question!”
What the what? Why did I do that? What if I ticked off Oprah
by yelling at her? I was frozen with fear and hope and the same time. As soon
as the words escaped my lips, Oprah replied “You in the pretty yellow dress, we
will come to you after commercial.”
Huh? That’s all it took? I’ve been waiting 25 years to talk
to you and now I’m about to be on TV after standing up during commercial break?
Me? One in a thousand? Lifeclass got
real. A guy with a microphone came my way, a stage hand made me step up on a
wooden box (I’m kinda short) and I stood there waiting for my moment. Then this
happened:
Audience Q&A: How Do You Find the Courage to Follow Your Purpose?
During a live taping in St. Louis, an audience member asks how to push past fear to find your purpose. Find out why Bishop T.D. Jakes says baby steps and resisting your fear will help you live the life you've dreamed about.
Did y’all just see that? Me talking to Oprah and TD Jakes?
Crying on national television and telling the world that I needed more and that
I was afraid? I’ve had people ask me why I was crying and if it was because I
was talking to Oprah. No, that wasn’t it. I cried when I met her at Sweetie Pie’s
the day before.
These were tears of relief and hope. I wanted to share my
secret and I wanted help! Just like Ricky Bobby said. “Help me Oprah Wini-frey!” Side note, if you haven't seen this video PLEASE watch Dewaynia's retelling of "The Day We Met Oprah"
I asked that question and I zoned out. I heard their replies
but I wasn’t really capable of processing the words. I had just confessed on
national television that I was afraid to pursue my dreams and my heart’s
desire. Deidre “I got this” James unedited and on Front Street.
I haven’t watched this clip in its entirety until today. The
truth hurts! What is wrong with me and why can’t I ask for what I want? The one thing I took from that moment was
Rev. T.D. Jakes saying “Resist your fear and your faith will get bigger. You
either resist your fear or give up your destiny.”
So here we are, one year later. Did I do it? Did I resist my
fears? YES I DID!
See, I learned your purpose isn’t always your paycheck. I
was conflicted because I loved my job but something was missing. Who am I
kidding, it wasn’t something, I knew exactly what it was! So I applied for a volunteer position with an
organization that made my heart sing. I was accepted into their program and for
the next 6 months I lived a life that brought me so much joy and purpose that if
I never do anything else, I would be ok because I made so many connections and
I made a difference in my community.
Yes I’m funny, but honey, don’t think I
can’t run the world. I put it down and I was successful. I didn’t do it alone,
my friends and family helped tremendously and I would not have made it through
that time without them.
It was scary and I took many risks and I loved every second
of it. It was something I did for me. It had nothing to do with my career, my
friends or anything else. I took a chance and it paid off big time. Those super close to me know the details of
my journey and that’s how it should be. I resisted my fear and my faith carried
me through one of the most trying and rewarding times of my life.
Now don’t think that I’m done. Nope, I’m not even close. I’m
not done fighting those fears. When something or someone is important to you,
you have to face your fears and deal with it. Maybe you’re afraid to pursue a
hobby like dancing, or maybe you’re afraid to tell someone you love them.
Whatever it is, resist that fear! It is a prison and I refuse to live that
Shawshank life.
So thank you Oprah, TD Jakes and especially Dewaynia. I’m
done with fear and I will live in my truth as often as I can for as long as I
can. I’m fearless. I’m a fighter and I have faith and that makes me
unstoppable. When I forget it that I am
all those things, I have an awesome circle of loved ones who remind me that I
got this! We all have it in us, and we are WORTHY. Don’t waste any time
thinking you’re not.
Better late than never right? Ok, last time we spoke I was going into round 3 of my 4 workouts in one day. After pilates and free-style dancing, I returned to Level 5 for a kickboxing class. This was a major move for me. I never go to classes solo. I always take a friend who will cut up and giggle with me. When in beast mode, I couldn't allow myself to lose focus so I went alone. This time the class was kickboxing. Honestly, everything I know about kickboxing I learned from my homeboy Billy Blanks and his Tae Bo box set. Yep, I still have my VHS somewhere in my basement.
I've taken this class before but not on an empty stomach. Message to the kids, food is fuel! I was so caught up, I forgot to eat real food before my work out and I struggled to make it through. I was doing that "let me act like I need to stop to tie my shoes but in reality I need to catch my breath" move in the middle of "I Got A Feeling" by the Black Eyed Peas. There I was slumped over gasping for air in a room full of women when boom! 3 tall dark and handsome young men walked into the studio. I'm guessing they were there to check out the gym and grab a schedule. Boy I perked up so fast! I was jabbing and doing the roundhouse kicks looking like Dragon Fly Jones.
I was in the zone and right as the guys walked out, the instructor gave us the wrap it up and stretch moves. I was so happy to be done. Really, I was about to pass out from not eating. As I walked out I stopped to say bye to the owner of the gym when I heard a sound come from my tummy that was so intense I wish I had a recording to prove it's seriousness. It sounded like the NC A&T marching band was performing a half-time show in my gut!!
So I got home, ate dinner and was like OK, I am going to walk 3 miles for my final work out. And I swear as soon as I laced up, I got a Facebook notifcation that we had a rabid fox running loose in my little neighborhood. I stole this pic from my neighbor's Facebook page (Thanks Mark)
Reports said animal control was on the way and to stay inside. It's very Antoine Dodson "Hide yo kids, hide yo wives." Word on the streets is the fox was "handled."
Soooo, I had to do the X-Box Zumba workout and called it a night. So how do I feel 24 hours later? GREAT!!! I mean my abs are crazy sore and it wasn't easy but I did it! Me, Downton Abbey watching, cookie butter eating, non-twerking Deidre James did 4 workouts in one day. Aaaaaand I managed to get another workout in today with my new trainer. Yeah, it's like that. I would love to write about my first session but umm it's time for Scandal and ain't nobody got time to blog when Olivia Pope and them are on.
So there you have it, I got it in and I survived! If you are local and ever wanna join me for a work out find me on Facebook and let's get moving. Ain't nothing to it but to do it. Until next time!
Hello Dee-talers! Heads up, I'm writing this on the fly from my phone so we might have a gang of typos and I'm gonna need for you to get past that and focus on the bigger picture here ok?
You ever been sick and tired of being sick and tired? I realized I have
been in a physical funk and after losing a good amount of weight and
living a healthy lifestyle, I was back on Team Fluffikins. Sipping wine, eating cookie butter, watching Series 3 of Downton Abbey
like it was my job. Man I was up to no good! But who wants to work
out??? Why do I have to sweat!? Pass the cookie butter and leave me be!
Then this happened...
Dang Superbowl Halftime Show. Dang Destiny's Child Reunion. Dang
Beyonce's gyrating. And Dang Kelly Rowland's ridiculously cut arms!!
Wake up call!! I called myself learning the break it down part to End of Time and almost collapsed a lung. Not cool! So fine. I will never be a member of Destiny's Child. I will never wear a
python onesie in front of 100 million people, but can I get my lungs to
hold enough air to get me through a song please God? Can I live!!?? Ok I'm being dramatic (again) point is its time to get off Team
Fluffikins and work my way up to being a starter on Team Fly As A Mugg. I've been easing into things. A class here and there, waling and eating better but it's time to get turnt up! So today I am attempting to kick start my efforts by doing 4 yes 4 workouts in one day. Now listen I ain't stupid. This won't be an everyday thing, but I'm looking at it as my Get it Right Inauguration. I Deidre James hereby do solemnly swear to dedicate my time and efforts into being well, fly as a mugg! So I'm going to keep track of every activity and hopefully I can complete all 4. No skipping ahead alright? Ok let's go!
photo by Level 5 Studio
Workout #1: All Them Mocha Lattes You Gotta Do Pilates 12:15 PM I went to Level 5 Studios for my very 1st Pilates class. I met my instructor who was tall blonde beautiful and very kind. The
class had 4 other Pilates Pros and I was the thickest most out of shape
newbie in the bunch. The class was challenging but I felt comfortable in the company of the
other class mates. The instructor modified the moves for me, took time
to correct my poses and even challenged me to do some advanced moves. I will say at one point when we were in children's pose. I thought I was going suffocate myself with my breasteses! At the end of the class, everyone congratulated me on not giving up and I
took a bow. I have a loooong way to go before I'm anywhere close to
being as good as my classmates, but I still give the experience an A!
Tips: wear light weight breathable clothing, if you're busty, lock those
chesticles down and wear a crew neck shirt. No v-necks! Also make sure
your feet don't look like a smashed up bag of Fritos. No shoes, no
socks, so grease up those ankles! Invest in a comfy mat. You will spend a lot of time on it and you will sweat!
Work Out #2 Show Me What You're Twerkin With Confession, I can't dance like I used to. I mean I can dance as in I
still know the moves to Janet Jackson videos and I can bust out the
routine to Bell Biv Devoe's Poison but umm as far as the dances that are
popular today, I'm a straight up old lady. So I googled YouTube video
tutorials on some of today's moves like the Dougie, Twerkin,
the REAL Harlem Shake and the Cat Daddy.
Maaaaan that was just sad. I don't think my Lord and Savior wants me to
be Twerk Team Captain because I swear on my last jar of cookie butter
you will never see me twerking in public. The movements, the sounds, the
facial expressions. I quit this workout before I could burn a single
calorie. I don't want to dance like this. Didn't break any kind of
sweat, but I did break my own heart. That was just sad. I give that an
F!! Ok this post is getting long and I have to get ready for my other work
outs. Do I have it in me or will I stay on team Fluffikins? To be continued...
